The bathroom wars have sadly come to our schools here in the East Penn School District. A fight has been raging nationally for over a year now, as opponents of extending civil rights protections to transgender men and women have focused public attention on public bathroom use in places like Texas and North Carolina. An East Penn family has now made our schools a part of this national political debate by insisting that transgender students be excluded from the locker room their daughter uses at Emmaus High School. Regardless of your knowledge of our district’s transgender population or your views toward transgender civil rights, let me suggest that this is a manufactured controversy, for three reasons. Reason #1: Current district practice is the result of our own policy, not that of the Obama administration. The U.S Justice Department, under the Obama administration, issued a letter this past spring indicating that districts must not discriminate against transgender students in any school facilities, including bathrooms and locker rooms. The letter set off a firestorm of controversy nationally, with opponents of President Obama citing it as an example of legal misinterpretation and federal meddling in state and local affairs. The family here in East Penn have cited the letter as a chief motivating factor in bringing the controversy to our district. But here’s the thing: The practices of our district toward sexual minorities such as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender students were in place long before the letter from the U.S. Justice Department. The district’s Nondiscrimination in School and Classroom Practices Policy (#103) was passed on February 23, 2015-- more than a year and a half ago. Moreover, the policy was developed after collecting input from local school administrators, local teachers, our own local school board, and local student groups. It was presented multiple times at local school board meetings, where it was available for public review and comment by the local community. This is not an Obama issue, a Republican vs. Democrat issue, a liberal vs. conservative issue, or a federal vs. local issue, and nobody in our community benefits from attempts to make it part of such battles. Reason #2: Our children should not be used as pawns in political battles. This leads to the second important reason. We should, of course, have vigorous debate over President Obama’s policy initiatives and legal interpretations. But we should not use the children in our schools as pawns in this debate. Through my own conversations with students, teachers, and administrators, I understand that students are almost always able to easily and amicably come to terms with transgender students and their full participation in school life, just as students have come to terms with women in schools, with racial minorities in schools, and with gay, lesbian, and bisexual students in schools. This does not mean that students don’t have questions and concerns, nor does it mean that they all agree with one another. But they are ready to respect one another and respect that we live in a diverse community that values equality between different people. The trouble arises when our kids return home and discuss these issues with the adults in their lives. Some adults too quickly hitch the many different student identities to larger political debates and battles. This is wrong, no matter what side of the debate you happen to be on. Don’t make children in our local community the foot soldiers in national partisan fights. Reason #3: ALL children at East Penn have access to accommodations And this brings me to the third and most important point. All our students-- including the student of the family who has ignited the controversy-- deserve to feel respected and feel safe in school. Nobody is forced to undress or shower under conditions that make them feel uncomfortable. Students routinely use bathroom stalls and other private areas. Students who are uncomfortable changing in the locker room or using restrooms are offered further options, from changing in a nurse’s bathroom to taking summer gym. So this is ultimately a manufactured controversy, fueled by a lack of knowledge of actual school policy, unfair in its use of students as pawns in a national political fight, and fueled by a desire for the public spotlight rather than easy, pragmatic accommodation of one family’s beliefs. Let’s get our focus out of the bathrooms and locker rooms, and on to ways we can improve our schools for everyone.
32 Comments
Alisa Bowman
8/26/2016 10:07:52 am
Thank you for being such a strong supporter of equality and for working so hard to ensure our schools are a welcoming and nurturing place for ALL students. Gratitude. Gratitude. Gratitude.
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Amy
8/26/2016 10:13:49 am
Thank you for being an example to so many schools across the country. You are doing what is fair, not because you were directed to, but because it's the right thing to do for ALL students.
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Becky
8/26/2016 10:47:11 am
Thank you for understanding at the heart of all this is a child.
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Kathleen McCormick
8/26/2016 10:59:46 am
Thank you so much for taking a stand for human decency, equality, and love.
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Karen Waldeck
8/26/2016 01:42:18 pm
Beautiful response to this ridiculousness. I hope the families that make up your community are raised up by your reason and compassion and by your obvious love of the school and the children it serves.
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Krissy Bresnan
8/26/2016 02:33:20 pm
Thank you so much for your common sense and for your service to our community. I know East Penn is a smart, strong, inclusive, diverse and loving community, and that we can value and respect every child in it.
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8/26/2016 08:27:02 pm
Thank you for this informative and positive explanation. I wrote to President Obama several months ago to thank him and Attorney General Loretta Lynch for their ongoing support of the trans community. In my letter I told him that the East Penn District has been supportive of trans students even before his initiative, and how grateful I am that my grandson attends school in this district. I received a letter from the President which I am happy to send you if you wish.
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Jennifer
8/27/2016 09:49:27 pm
I enjoyed your point about rude Rs learning and understanding gender identity and supporting their transgender friends and then going home and telling their parents and parents do not understand as they have not been educated. Such is the power of our schools! Children come home with math strategies we have never heard of, they learn things we have never been educated on and being this information home and we learn too. Thank you for doing what you do, you are doing a great job.
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Linda
8/27/2016 10:03:39 pm
Thank you for standing up for non-discrimination. A transgender person has no more choice in who they are than a cisgender person. It sounds like your school is a true leader!
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Belinda
8/27/2016 10:14:35 pm
This whole bathroom/locker room issue is ridiculous! There have been transgender kids using the restrooms and locker rooms that identify with the gender identity all along, and no one noticed until it became an issue recently. Where do you think they have been peeing all this time? Trans people would NEVER make themselves noticeable in the restroom or locker room to others.
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Naomi winch
8/27/2016 10:55:30 pm
Thank you for making this so clear, fair, respectful, and just.
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Anna
8/27/2016 10:58:56 pm
Thank you for recognizing that our children need respect and support. Politics are stirring controversy not the kids themselves.
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Lindsay
8/27/2016 11:06:01 pm
Beautifully said. Keep writing, keep educating.
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Joie
8/27/2016 11:13:24 pm
This is how to handle the situation. With fairness to all. No one singled out, choices for those that are uncomfortable. I hope that soon that this is a non subject nation wide. Let people be who they are and treat all with dignity and respect.
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Jennifer
8/27/2016 11:32:16 pm
It's wonderful that you support all students and they are all treated fairly. I love that the student who complained was offered other options. Exactly as it should be!
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A. Levy
8/28/2016 01:48:37 am
Your approach is sane and humane!
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Kristie
8/28/2016 02:48:25 am
I believe that every child has the same right to feel safe and secure at school and that this extends to locker rooms and bathrooms. Forcing someone to use a facility which leaves that person vulnerable, insecure and not at ease isn't healthy to that child mentally and emotionally. Come out of the dark ages and help this child grow as individual mind, body and soul.
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Allie
8/28/2016 07:07:43 am
Thank you for showing all round fairness, and showing that everyone should be respected
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Michele
8/28/2016 07:30:41 am
Thank you for bringing reason into this discussion. As a parent of a transgender child, it is so important for our children to be in an inclusive and respectful environment as is our own school district and yours as well.
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Melissa
8/28/2016 08:37:14 am
From a fellow teacher and mom of a transgender child, I thank you for your support! A safe educational environment where all feel respected and welcome is a right that all children should have.
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Karen Mahmud
8/28/2016 09:43:35 am
WE, as a society, need to teach our children to not only accept others who are different, but to love and cherish them. Thank you for taking a stand for equality. Our voices can and will eventually drown out the discrimination, fear, and hate. Love will win.
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Jessica Lee
8/28/2016 10:22:57 am
Trains rights are human rights, and our children need to learn that everyone should be allowed to be themselves! Trans children need equality and love! Thank you for helping create safe positive spaces for all kids!
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Kimberly
8/28/2016 11:40:07 am
As a teacher, and a mother of a transgender high school student, I am thankful for your words of sense. My son is allowed to use the bathroom of his choosing. It is often the clinic, but he has used the men's room, when he needs to, and is in and out as quick as possible, because he wants to get to class.
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Deirdre Grimm
8/28/2016 06:00:04 pm
Thank you for your inclusive policy and attitude equality should be for everyone not just the majority! Let the little girl who would rather fail use other accommodations and then maybe she will see how isolating " othering" can be
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Ginger
8/28/2016 11:55:40 pm
Thank you for highlighting the fact that most young people today are totally accepting and consider this a non-issue. My experience is it is for the most part older people who make a scene and their reasons seem to be based in a lack understanding of the issue.
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Ted Dobracki
8/29/2016 12:05:49 pm
It would seem that the responsible thing for the school board to do would be to simply inform its public (particularly students and parents) what their options are if they need more privacy.
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Kathy B
8/29/2016 03:26:42 pm
I really wish more people would READ & LEARN about transgender people, instead of indulging in myths & ignorance. The proof is in the science, & if everyone familiarized themselves w/ WHY transgender people exist, they would (hopefully) realize that this whole issue shouldn't even BE an issue. They have no desire to flaunt their privates, & just want to be accepted for who they are. 💖
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Lynn H
8/29/2016 04:15:28 pm
Every student deserves to feel safe at school. Transgender kids are often bullied more than any other group. Non-discrimination policies are put in place to protect those who are most vulnerable. Transgender students just want to be accepted for their true self. Thank you for writing this!
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Jenn
8/30/2016 12:24:26 am
Mrs. Coyle has stated publicly several times that she does NOT want transgender students forced to use locker rooms that are of the gender they do not identify as, so I think you should remove that opening gambit from your post.
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Mom in NC
8/30/2016 08:57:17 pm
BRAVO!!!
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Julie Bisgaard
9/13/2016 05:15:14 pm
The bathroom wars are ridiculous. A transgender person's transition has nothing to do with sex, but everything to do with identity or how they feel. They are NOT going into the bathroom for sex. In fact, that is the last thing that is on their mind. I'm sure they just want to get in, pee and get out safely. Transgender persons have been using the bathroom long before there were policies and they were making the calls using their best judgement as to where they'd fit in and where they'd feel safe. It would be in everybody's best interest if we all just treated each other with respect and dignity - as humans!
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